Blew through this one ...
Yes, for those of you paying way
too close attention to the goings-on of this space, this is, indeed, the second
book review penned today. Since it only took me a couple of days to plow through this volume (as opposed to two weeks for the Dyer book reviewed earlier today), and I didn't want my recall of it to "get cold" over the course of the holiday weekend, I figured I'd just get this done now.
Frankly, I don't really know why
I ended up reading Rhonda Britten's Fearless Living: Live without Excuses and Love without Regret
... the "how", I have a handle on, though. You see, I had been trying to get some time to "pick the brain" of an old acquaintance of mine regarding details of setting up a counseling practice, and he recommended his cousin Rhonda's book, saying that a lot of what I needed to know could be found in there. So, I dutifully ordered a copy of it, and set it in the stack to be read. Unfortunately, there was even less
information on the ins and outs of running such a venture in this
than there had been in that insufferable Shelly Stockwell book that I wrote about
In a phrase that regular readers are no doubt sick of hearing, "this is not to say this is a bad
book", but it was not what I had been expecting to get into, and so was both a bit of an irritation and disappointment.
Personally, I would have preferred
to not have followed up the Dyer book with this, in terms of "where things are going" in my head. Whereas Dyer spends a lot of time coaching the reader to disengage from "low energy" thought forms, Britten has a tendency to almost wallow
in a quicksand of emotions and fixations on past events in her life. Fearless Living
reminds me of a "chick flick" ... while it may be well done, and have solid points, its tone is just too Fried Green Tomatoes
for my tastes. Now, Britten's "system" (also called "Fearless Living") that she outlines in the book does seem to be very well structured, with useful exercises, helpful guidance, etc., (and interesting paradigms of "the wheel of fear" and the "wheel of freedom"), but it all seems to be targeted to people who are having major emotional "issues".
Britten, herself, has had to deal with serious
emotional trauma, and she spends a lot
of the book dragging the reader through these various scenarios. While I'm sure this was quite therapeutic for the author, I'm not sure why
all this extensive "sharing" is in there unless she's trying to "build empathy" with her readers. As I did not come to this book looking to salve some psychic wound, though, it does seem like a whole lot of unproductive verbiage which immerses her audience in a lot of negative emotion ... and, for what? ... showing her readers that she's had it bad too? ... that she understands? ... what? The effect is that of a "self-help" book crossed with a pathos-soaked autobiography, and just reeks of "TMI".
Much as I wish that one could retroactively edit the Dyer book to remove the "newage twaddle" bits, I feel that this would be a much
stronger book if Britten would have left her own scarring experiences at the door. It's fine to take a "clinical" look at your clients' stories, but to constantly be dipping back into your own history for stuff (that in some cases make you seem clueless
!) you've been through begs the question: is this a book to help others, or to make "poor Rhonda" feel better about herself?
Again, the actual system
that Britten details in the book looks fairly decent, but it's too bad that it takes so much "filtering" to sift the substantial bits from the tear-jerker autobiography. Of course, I'm sure there is a significant
demographic who would find this viscous mix quite appealing, but I am (thankfully) not among them. As noted, there is
useful material in this book, and if you're interested in checking it out, it does still appear to be in print in the paperback edition, with used copies of the hardback running around three bucks via the usual suspects. Just to let you know, this has a five-star rating over on Amazon, so there are a lot of folks who think it's just marvy
... so you might want to take that into consideration as a counter-point to my typical bitter cynicism!